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04 Jan 2019

Get your ‘buts’ out

“Dear Aunt Agatha, I’d love to come to tea but…” or “Dear Aunt Agatha, I’d love to come to tea, and…”

Broadly speaking, when you use ‘but,’ the implication is that everything *prior* to the ‘but’ is rubbish. “I’d love to come to tea but…” is code for ‘No I Would Not.’

A simple trick is to use ‘and,’ instead – a method called Yes-Anding. If you finish with ‘and,’ the sentence becomes positive: “Dear Aunt Agatha, I’d love to come to tea, and…I’m sorry to say I have already said Yes to Uncle Monty that day.”

Get your ‘buts’ out.

Mail me at toby.chapman-dawe@strand-uk.com